Like most adults, I am damaged. That sounds dramatic but let me explain. My experiences have shaped the person I am today and the way I see the world around me. Once a shiny, pristine human I am now covered in scars.
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Reflecting on 2021
Like so many others, I was challenged in ways I wasn’t expecting in 2021. My life was turned on it’s head early in the year and I spent the remaining months doing a lot of reflecting, self improvement, inner work, outer work, reconnecting with friends and figuring out who I am as a person. TheseContinue reading “Reflecting on 2021”
Healing From A Toxic Relationship
After coming to terms with the reality of my marriage, I am working on reflection and self healing. I am searching for others who have experienced something similar and learning how to move forward. There are a lot of resources out there and tips for healing. One of the hardest things I have tried toContinue reading “Healing From A Toxic Relationship”
Dating after divorce/Alone
Dating is new, sometimes scary and can leave me feeling more alone than I have before. It almost feels like a “look at me now” moment to be able to say I’m dating again. I’ve started using some dating apps and connecting with people outside of my circle of friends. Parts of this experience haveContinue reading “Dating after divorce/Alone”
The First Anniversary
The first major milestone arrived. This is a day that would have been my 13 year wedding anniversary but will now pass without fanfare. Leading up to this day I tried to keep myself and my mind busy. I spent time with friends and family, went out to dinner, had late-night drinks, and tried toContinue reading “The First Anniversary”
How do you cut ties?
My ex moved out very quickly after the divorce was finalized. He and his girlfriend found a place to live and a week later he was gone. I don’t want to but I feel bitter about this. I don’t want him back but why should he get to move out and move on so quickly?Continue reading “How do you cut ties?”
It’s Final
The final paperwork has been approved and a judge has signed off. This means that the divorce is final. How do I feel?
What I Wish People Knew
There are so many things that I wish people knew. From communication, to time, to acknowledgment. It all adds up but here are some of the basics. It’s ok to talk to me about it. This is a huge milestone in my life and is consuming all of my days. Not only do I haveContinue reading “What I Wish People Knew”
Coming To Terms With The Reality Of My Relationship
I am starting to realize just how unhealthy my marriage was. I am not a therapist and have not seen one for these specific feelings so none of this is coming from a professional place but rather a place of internalizing these emotions for so long. I am realizing how manipulative he was. How emotionallyContinue reading “Coming To Terms With The Reality Of My Relationship”
Awkward
We are at the point in the divorce process where we still have to live together for financial reasons but are emotionally disconnected. He spends about half the week at friends homes and the other half at home. He started to sleep on the couch until I get up with the dog in the morningContinue reading “Awkward”